Today I’d like to share a few observations. The first is that people are generally rude and inconsiderate. It starts with my downstairs neighbor who will leave junk mail on the floor in the middle of the vestibule…the vestibule she will not vacuum despite the fact that she lives on the 1st floor. I clean it by plugging in my vacuum in my 2nd floor apt. and carrying it down. I clean it because I’m an asshole.
Now let’s talk about the general population. Every day people say to their friends “I’ll call you back” and they really have no intention of doing so. They say this meaningless thing without so much as inquiring as to why the friend had called in the first place. Now granted, if I were bleeding to death and in need of a ride to the hospital I would have blurted it out regardless of whether or not I was interrupting some jackass rip off of American Idol. But please, I beg you, if you’re not going to call back, just say “I can’t talk” or “Can we talk some other time?”
And then there’s the maybe folks. I’m having the girls over tonight and am trying to figure out who the hell is going to be there…I might need to grab an extra chair or two if the maybes decide to show. Maybe was an acceptable answer 3 weeks ago…but you’re kind of expected to come up with a definite response say, the week of the event. I’ve tried not to be a jerk about it. I sent a polite reminder email to absolutely no avail. Out of the 10 girls I invited 2 can’t come, 3 haven’t responded, 2 said yes and I’m sure they’re coming, 1 said yes and it’s a toss up and 2 are still maybes. Something tells me there will be 3 of us with some Cheetos and a bottle of wine.
The ultimate point is this…and it’s a lesson for me about my life… I’m uber-annoyed this morning because the past few weeks have given me the feeling that most people in my life (not you Shem) subscribe to a “It’s no biggie, it’s just Lisa” attitude toward our relationship. The perfect example being a feud with a co-worker I had well over a month ago. She assumed she could say whatever she wanted to me and I would just take it and make nice to preserve the peace. Well, I got a little sick of just taking it and making nice and apologizing. I told her so and to STFU. We haven’t spoken since and will likely never speak again unless she learns how to apologize when she’s wrong which is about as likely as Ratzinger converting to Judaism.
Anyway, kids, The Lisa has feelings too…The Lisa will likely not go after you about it but still, it doesn’t feel great to be sitting at home knitting socks figuring that of the 4 people who said they’d call you back or call you later at least one of them will and finally realize it’s midnight and the phone hasn’t rung. I don’t do it to you. I try to be nice. Please do the same.
